Friday, November 06, 2009

My Name is Kellie...and I'm a CoDependent Blogger?

Friday.

Its been a busy week.

I have a lot of nothing to write about today.

Oh wait! Here's something...

A couple nights ago The Mister reads my blog and says: Nice posts this week.

 I say: Thanks, but I cannot figure out where my commenters are...it's like crickets out there.

He says: Maybe everybody is busy.

I say: (in my best Eyeor voice) Maybe no one reads my blog.

He went back and looked at my blog.

He says: Kellie you have at least 7 comments on the last few days...that's not "nobody".

I say: Yeah, well last week I had nearly 18 per day.

He says: Honey, don't be a codependent blogger.

I say: OUCH!

And then we laughed. But it got me to thinking...

...about that scene in Soapdish (have you seen it?) when Celeste (an aging soap opera star) and her agent set up a "sighting" in the mall so Celeste can give her ego a boost.

Not that I'm like that or anything...I'm just telling you what I was thinking.

Anyway, go ahead, comment. Tell me something funny. Tell me something random. Tell me something about yourself. Tell me your a codependent blogger too. Tell me that you are an enabler. Tell me that you don't like comments. Tell me that you love comments but you hate the mall....Just tell me.

Happy Friday!

47 comments:

Kendra said...

I'm a co-dependent blogger, too. I used to get 8-10 comments a post. Now I'm lucky if I get four. So yeah, my inner Eeyore-ness comes out and thinks nobody likes me. And then I get over it because I'm pretty busy, too. So, here's a comment for ya!

O Mom said...

I read your blog everyday, but seldom comment. Sorry!
The other day I was sitting in my favorite chair doing some hemming and sewing a few holes in a couple of my girls' clothing items. I am not a sew type of girl, but I can fix a mean hole. After I finished, I actually thought of you and your amazing projects you have shown us the last few months.
Just wanted to share that with you so maybe you'll remember, just because you don't know it, you're touching people more than you know!

Lindsay said...

hehe I am a co-dependent blogger as well.. I am also crazy busy with life and haven't been commenting as much! I read.. I love your posts.. but sometimes I am just plan lazy and don't tell you.. sorry :-) But Im here!

Tiffani said...

girl, I feel ya...

But, I'm always here, always enjoying what you have to say, always interested to see WHAT you'll say...so, no Eeyore-ing for any of us!!

I'd just love it if MY mister would read my blog...I think it's wonderful that yours does!!

Laura said...

oh how all women are all the same peas in the same pod...

the ocean of life. calm waves , big waves, loud and soft ones, high tide, low tide, the sea water can be warm or cool, some go in and some don't but don't we all love the ocean!

And we all love your blog!!, I read every post!

Laura said...

BTW- I hate the mall!

And I just had a fantastic 2 day get away with my man for our 14th wedding anniversary! And I am sad that you didn't comment on my status but then I think "do yo read them?".....

meh said...

Oh Kellie, I am totally an enabler. Let me just get settled in, find my caps and exclamation points, and here we go...

I think your blog is THE BEST!
You are SO INSIGHTFUL!
A very REAL kind of coffee gal!
WISE! Definately! And FAITHFUL!
Very FUNNY!
CREATIVE and QUIRKY!!
A SWEETHEART of a friend!!
Such DISCERNMENT in choosing a discerning husband... (:
The QUEEN of GOOD HAIR DAYS and COFFEE!
The BEST WATER DRINKER I know!

Anything else you need for me to say, just let me know. (: I'm here for ya'.

imnotned said...

I like turtles.

The Chubby Dove said...

I think every blogger goes through this...

(so far, I think you have 9 or so comments)

Have a wonderful weekend, Kellie!

Candace Chaney said...

I love comments. Maybe too much. But I'm a big believer in encouragement and the commenting really falls in that category most of the time. Really, I think that if you read, you should comment whenever possible. It's just encouraging. As long as the one being encouraged doesn't use that as her litmus test of whether she has worth or value (which I probably have been guilty of), she's good. :)

Happy Friday, friend!

On another note, a squirrel was trapped in my house today. My husband saved the day. It was awesome. Just thought you should know.

Dana said...

Yep, I'm right there with you!! More comments are a dream I have :)!

And, I hate the mall too!

Candace Chaney said...

Oh yeah... and I do hate the mall.

Anonymous said...

I have to apologize for being a lazy commenter. I read a lot of blogs daily but only randomly comment. Somehow I must think I'm too cool to comment. Love your blog! (even if I'm a slacker!)

Rae said...

I've been reading you, my friend, I too have been a bad commenter! I do feel the same sadness when others do not leave comments on my blog! How funny that we all feel this way. Wishing you a wonderful weekend!!!!

Tracey said...

1.Tell me something funny.
My five year old calls a computer a "cram-puter"
2.Tell me something random.
I ate sushi at Tasu on Wednesday.
3.Tell me something about yourself.
I really have grown fond of sushi.
4.Tell me your a codependent blogger too.
I like comments, but my feed-jit tells me that more people visit than comment...I've convinced myself that I'm OK with that.
5.Tell me that you are an enabler.
I am.
6.Tell me that you don't like comments.
I don't like mean comments. (but have never had a mean comment..I just don't think I'd like it)
7.Tell me that you love comments but you hate the mall....
ditto...and a double ditto on the mall thing..hate it very much.
8.Just tell me.
Love your blog..everyone does. You are funny, talented, and you drink lots of coffee...what's not to love??

Gretchen said...

Chirp, chirp. I'll be your cricket. And your co-dependent blogger. We all have egos, my friend. Like it or not. It feels good to be stroked, and it feels lonely when folks are busy or don't comment. Many times, this week, actually, I've thought of scrappin' the whole bloggy thang and moving on. But so far...I haven't. We'll see. But I feel you entirely. And 18 comments? Girl, I never get 18 unless I'm giving something away. :)

Gretchen said...

But don't YOU dare stop blogging. Because I'll mess you up. Er...I mean...I hope you still will blog, but only if it remains fun for you. xxxooo

Carpool Queen said...

I love your bread and your chicken noodle soup and your comfy couch.

I am amused by your concern that I might walk near spiders yesterday.

I love outlet malls.

NotNed's comment made me laugh.

LJ said...

Hello you co-dependent, "e"-less, talented and clever friend!

I read and sometimes comment. I try to think of funny things to comment about - I hope it always comes across that way. I did not know you liked comments - I felt that I may be bothering you, or your other friends would think "what a strange person that LJ is". I do read your blog often and I enjoy hearing the antics of the Mister, the Boy and the Girl.

It's funny, I feel the same way about my email "in box" as you do about blog comments - I don't get enough from friends!

Amber said...

Co-dependent here.

For sure. For sure.

Cathy said...

I was going to "make your day" by leaving a comment, but I saw that 19 others beat me to it. Wow. That's aprox. 14.3 more than comment on mine so...I think I'll borrow your Eeyore costume now.;)

I lurk.

And it's true, too, that I've been busy.

BTW, I adore your "about me" poem. Absolutely adore.

Michele said...

I'm here!!! I read every post but usually from my phone. It's hard to comment from my phone (bad excuse)! I will do better. :) I love comments and I love the mall!

Becca @ Our Crazy Boys said...

I do! I do! I get a little bummed when I don't get a lot of comments, but then I look back at the analytics and realize that people are there... just not commenting.
How can we fix that?

mer@lifeat7000feet said...

Oh Kellie...I've been a bad commenter. Not just on your blog but on EVERYONE'S blog. It's a combination of lack of time, energy, and just plain laziness. I love you though...and wish I could join you and Sus for lunch one of these days.

Please don't be co-dependent. Because if you feel validated by comments then I feel guilty for just reading. I'm highly motivated by guilt and I'm trying to remedy that.

And you know I'm joking about that right? ;)

lisa@littlesliceoflife said...

Let me pause for a moment and regain my composure after watching NotNed'v turtle clip.

Oh girl, I'm right there with you. I confess to being in something of a bloggy slump. Haven't been reading OR blogging. I just closed my eyes and hit "mark all as read" on my google reader...684 posts were just too overwhelming! But I just had to check in on you and I'm so glad I did!

Lori said...

I love getting comments too, and I simply can't wrap my brain around why some people don't ever comment. When my dad had cancer a few new people came out of the woodwork, but I'm always a little perplexed about what to say when someone says, "yeah, I read your blog but I never comment." Ideas?

Keep up the great blogging, girl! :)

Sandy said...

I read yours EVERY day! Being a brand new blogger, I'm already thinking, "Not too many people reading mine; not too many commenting; maybe I really don't have a lot of interesting 'stuff' to share; wonder if I should broaden the scope; etc." Then I realize that I am doing it for the fun of it & hopefully to encourage others, not to determine my popularity. But Girl, you ARE among the very popular! Don't get discouraged!!!

TanuvasaCasa said...

I just found you today via your monopoly money post. I loves it!

Chel said...

I try not to pay any attention to how many comments I get or it makes me all wiggy. It's easier to assume that no one ever is reading my blog. Then, I'm pleasantly surprised if anyone comments. :)

His Girl said...

oh dear. I was just thinking today how I don't get very many comments lately, then realized that I am 44 posts behind in commenting myself.

sorry I've been neglecting, LVCDarling.... you know you have true love from this so cal gal.

Amy said...

I'll admit that I've been way behind on blogging and reading since my vacation (and especially since seriously picking up the knitting needles this fall). I love comments, but also know that for each comment, there are probably a few readers who didn't comment.

Teresa @ Grammy Girlfriend said...

I love your blog....love you

Janel@Dandelion Dayz said...

I'm with you, girl! We love the comments, don't we? It's what it's all about really. I always say I blog for me and my family. But I would not be honest if I didn't say that I LOVE to hear from people.

Love you - and love your blog even if I don't comment every day, though.

:)

Rachel said...

Aren't all bloggers codependent, if only a little? I used to be a lurker on many blogs, but I've recently been trying to comment more. I know how I love to get comments, so it only makes sense that I leave them for others!
And btw, I'm loving the idea of a "what are you famous for" party! Would be some serious "good eats"!
Hope you're enjoying this beautiful weekend!

Sandy said...

Well, this should have been the shot in the arm you needed...!!!!! Write on!

Robin said...

It has definitely been a quiet week in my blog world...and on the blogs of those I frequent...maybe all were busy or in a quiet mood?

New Every Morning said...

It's been an extremely busy week for me... I've made time to read your blog, but haven't left many comments. I'm still a faithful reader and fan. Love you.

Want more comments?
1. Do a giveaway... it always brings out the lurkers
2. End a post with a good discussion question. (Even though I usually can't think of any good discussion questions, it's still a good plan)

Jackie @ Our Moments Our Memories said...

Oh, I'm pretty sure we ALL go through this! I have been a TERRIBLE blogger lately, though - obviously I haven't been writing, and I also haven't been getting around to reading like I want to. Sigh....one of these days things will settle down...maybe. :) But I always love stopping over here.

Tanya (In the Dailies) said...

Okay, not that it's a competition or anything, but you ALWAYS have more comments than I do!! Some readers are just more responsive than others. Instead of believing no one reads my blog or that I'm boring, I prefer to think my profound and wondrous blog posts have simply left my readers speechless! They don't know what to say so they say nothing at all. :)

I'm totally be sarcastic here. There are many days I wonder why no one loves me. So, relax, girl. You've already got 36 comments on this one post. You are cherished by people who've yet to meet you!

Blue Skies said...

This very issue is one of the main reasons I quit blogging. I don't like talking to myself in a public place. That said, you are a beautiful writer and I always love what you have to say. I am so glad to see everyone came out from "Lurk-land" to say hello!

Laura said...

ok, Now I want to know what the Mister has to say to this post and holy moly ALL the comments??? Did you guys have a big laugh?? I am waiting for another post....:)

Woman Interrupted said...

I loved this post! Very funny. Why do we bloggers need the affirmation so much? You don't get it unless you blog.

K2 said...

I'll jump in on this love fest. :) I love your blog and cherish you as a friend! This one's for you - 2,4,6,8, who do we appreciate? Kellie, Kellie, goooo Kellie!

adrienne said...

Oh Kellie, I think it's hormones speaking. And I've decided that these hormones don't just have one week in which they rule. As I get older, I feel like they get the 3 weeks a month and just one week I am myself! ha! I love Tanya's comment, "you are cherished by those who've yet to meet you." I feel like if my husband came home today and said we had to move to NC next month, I'd think well, hey, at least I have a few friends there already!! (you and CPQ) Really, and who can really keep up with 297 faithful readers????? Now THAT's pressure!

adrienne said...

Oh, and I received my apron in the mail this weekend. AWESOME! I went to see Beth Moore this weekend, which was great, and then came home to a new monogrammed apron--THANK YOU!! My 10 year old daughter who sews was so impressed and you could tell her little wheels were spinning wondering how to get herself one of those fancy schmancy sewing machines!

mimi said...

I'm thinking I'm a little late to this comment party, but I still wanted to comment. I love your blog, though I have not been able to read as much as I would like. After having my recent busy month...which caused me to not be able to read/post/comment much....I've realized that other people get busy too. Not such a big epiphany,but it made me think.

I love that you were honest in sharing your feelings about this.

Anonymous said...

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